Moral Intelligence is the growing capacity to decipher right from wrong, choose what's right and then behave morally.  Seven essential virtues are vital developing this critical and often-neglected aptitude:  Empathy, Conscience, Self-Control, Respect, Kindness, Tolerance, and Fairness. These seven traits are what today's youth need most to do what's right and to help them resist any pressures they face on the inside or outside that defy the habits of solid character. The foundation for moral intelligence is building the three virtues that comprise the "moral core" of moral intelligence: Empathy, Conscience, and Self-Control.

    We will be studying and practicing various character traits every year at Boger Elementary to help our students develop their moral intelligence.

    To view a short video of how you can connect with your own children, click here.This movie shows exactly how anyone can begin to positively impact intense behaviors in less than 30 seconds, by Connecting with Compassionate Attention. These are age-old concepts that consistently work for transforming unnecessary behaviors. The movie will open in a separate window and you just close it when you've finished viewing.
    Empathy- Identifying with and feeling other people's concerns. Empathy is the capacity to recognize or understand another's state of mind or emotion. It is often characterized as the ability to "put oneself into another's shoes", or to in some way experience the outlook or emotions of another being within oneself.

    Help your child develop empathy by:

    *Explaining to children the effects of their behavior on others.

    *Pointing out to children that they have the power to make others happy by being kind and generous to them.

    *Parental modeling of empathetic, caring behavior.

    *Explaining to children who have hurt or distressed others why their behavior is harmful and giving them. suggestions for making amends to those hurt.

    *Encouraging school-age children to discuss their feelings and problems with parents.
    Responsibility- Being dependable and making good choices. (Drug Awareness Month- choosing to not take drugs) Responsibility is the state or fact of being responsible for a particular action, burden, or person. It involves being and exhibiting reliability and dependability.

    Help your child develop responsibility by:

    * Assigning tasks or chores they should complete

    * Not being overly critical--This is a poison when it is combined with teaching.

    * Being patient, it takes time for anyone to change their ways.

    * Giving tons of praise and encouragement.

    * Discouraging the attitude of "that's not my job

    * Encourage them to help each other with the work and to help bear one another's burdens

    * Don't keep nagging - just have a natural consequence to follow if the job is not done.

    If your world view is that everyone should contribute to the well-being of all, no matter their ages and ability levels, your actions, attitudes, and expectations will reflect that, and your young child will begin to learn the value of responsibility."
    Honesty-  Always telling the truth and showing truthful actions by never cheating, stealing, or lying
    Honesty is the quality or fact of being honest, upright, fair, truthful, sincere, and frank. People who are honest show a straightforwardness of conduct.

    Help your child become honest by:

    *Being truthful with them on a daily basis despite the consequences.

    *Teaching virtues that strengthen and guide behavior.

    *Allowing them to show and share their feelings.

    *Developing a close, mutually respectful relationship with your kids.

    *Treating your child and others with respect

    *Expressing yourself positively as well as critically.

    *Teaching them to be responsible for their own actions; don't blame others.

    *Teaching them to consider the consequences before they consider telling a lie.
    Self-Control - Regulating your thoughts and actions . Self-Control is the ability to stop any pressures from within or without and act the way you know and feel is right.

    Help your child develop self-control by:

    *Using a brief timeout in a designated area to show consequences for outbursts

    *Praising your child for not losing control in frustrating and difficult situations

    *Encouraging your child to walk away from a frustrating situation to cool off

    *Urging your child to think before responding

    *Evaluating a situation and talking through the problem rather than losing control
    Perseverance- Working hard and not giving up
    Perseverance is having confidence that a task can be taken on and completely successfully even though it may be difficult.

    Help your child develop perseverance by:

    *Giving honest feedback and support as they work on a task

    *Helping them keep the end objective in mind

    *Reminding them of the goal every now and then to help them see their progress

    *Working around obstacles-break the task into smaller parts if necessary

    *Helping them overcome minor setbacks

    *Helping them see the importance of completing the task 
    Respect- Showing you value others by treating them in a courteous and considerate way
    Treat others the way you want to be treated.

    Help your child develop respect by:

    *Being courteous and polite--modeling the right behavior

    *Listening to what other people have to say--talk with people not to them

    *Not insulting people, making fun of them, or calling them names

    *Not bullying or picking on others

    *Not judging people before you get a chance to know them

    *Teaching your child to respect themselves--say no to inappropriate things

    *Being honest, positive, trusting, fair, polite, reliable, caring and a good listener
    Kindness- Demonstrating concern about the welfare and feelings of others.

    Help your child develop kindness by

    *Modeling kindness for your children--volunteer work, etc.

    *Being kind to your children--running a kind, respectful household

    *Rewarding kind acts---catching them being kind, not bad

    *Making your actions and words match--don't be kind to someone's face and talk about them behind their back

    *Keeping punishments verbal and not physical, explaining why an action was inappropriate

    *Reading stories and books about kindness

    *Giving your children tasks to do that build responsibility and a good feeling of self-worth--children who feel good about themselves are more respectful of others

    *Helping others by randon acts of kindness
    Tolerance - Respecting the dignity and rights of all person, even those whose beliefs and behaviors we disagree with. It is an attitude of openness and respect for the differences that exist among people.

    Help your child develop tolerance by:

    *Demonstrating tolerance in your everyday life--children learn from what they see

    *Celebrating differences of others while continuing to honor and pass down your own cultural heritage

    *Talking with your child about the values you want them to have

    *Making your actions and words match--value diversity and be sensitive to cultural stereotypes

    *Watching what and how you say things around your children--children learn from what they hear

    *Reading stories and books about tolerance--select carefully

    *Answering your child's questions about differences honestly and respectfully

    *Demonstrating acceptance of your children's differing abilities, interests, and styles--value their uniqueness

    *Allowing your children to work and play with others who are different from them
    Integrity - Adherence to moral and ethical principles; soundness of moral character; honesty. Saying what you mean and meaning what you say.
    Help your child develop integrity by:

    *Being the example

    *Keeping your promises

    *Teaching friendship skills

    *Instilling emphathy and honesty

    *Using your faith if you belong to a church

    *Teaching individuality

    *Encouraging truthfulness

    *Teaching your child how to apologize

    *Teaching tolerance

    *Demonstrating Fairness
    Fairness - Choosing to be open-minded and to act in a just and fair way. Treating people the way you want to be treated.
    Help your child develop fairness by:

    *Teaching them to take turns

    *Telling the truth and expecting the same from them

    *Not taking advantage of other people's mistakes or ignorance

    *Not taking more than your fair share.

    *Playing by the rules: use the same criteria, rules and standards, for everyone

    *Considering all the facts, including opposing views, before making decisions

    * Listening to people with an open mind---- Not letting personal preferences, prejudices, or other feelings interfere with decisions that should be based on merit

    *Thinking about how your actions will affect others and teaching them to do the same

    *Not blaming others for your mistakes

    *Not playing favorites
    Conscience - Knowing the right and decent way to act and acting in that way
    Conscience is a hypothesized ability that distinguishes whether our actions are right or wrong. It is a person's inner sense of what is morally right or wrong.

    Help your child develop good conscience by:

    *Being a strong moral example on a daily basis

    *Teaching virtues that strengthen and guide behavior

    *Using moral discipline to help your child learn right from wrong.

    *Developing a close, mutually respectful relationship with our kids.

    *Treating your child and others with respect

    *Setting specific boundaries for moral behavior in your home or at school

    *Responding calmly to what your child has done
Last Modified on July 13, 2017